Time-Outs

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Time-Outs

Parents have long used “time-outs” as a technique to stop unacceptable behavior; however, time-outs are not just an effective punishment. They also give children an opportunity to calm down and gain self-control.

Time-outs can be used as a consequence of misbehavior, and they can be used to stop a situation from escalating. Sometimes both situations will justify calling a time-out. For instance, when children are fighting you not only want to stop what is going on at that moment but also want to try to remove the idea that fighting is acceptable. With the time-out comes your responsibility to teach alternative responses to negative situations.

A time-out can be a very useful technique, but like any technique it will lose its effectiveness when overused.

タイムアウト(今いる場所から強制的に退去させ、別の場所で一定 時間過ごさせること)」は、子供の容認できない行動をやめさせる ために以前から用いられている手法です。単なる“お仕置き”で はなく、気持ちを落ち着かせ自制心を養うチャンスを子供に与えるという 効果があります。

タイムアウトは、問題行動があった時、あるいは事態の悪化を防ぐために用 いられます。両方とも当てはまる場合もあるでしょう。例えば子供がケンカ をしていたとしましょう。この場合、タイムアウトの目的は、ケンカをやめ させるだけでなく、殴り合いは許されないという理念を子供に理解させるこ とです。タイムアウトの実行には、望ましくない事態に対する別の対応の仕 方を教えるという責任が伴います。

タイムアウトは非常に有効です。ただ、どんなテクニックもそうですが、多 用すると効果が低下します。tj

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Written By:

Lorraine Al-Jamie

A United States House of Representatives Congressional Recognition Award Recipient, Lorraine is a retired licensed Marriage Family Therapist that specializes in assisting parents acquire skills that enhance their ability to raise high-functioning and happy children. She, herself, is a mother of 5 and grandmother of 10 and has spent the last 30 years helping young parents, children and adolescents work through their varied and many challenges. Prior to specializing in parenting, Lorraine worked for two decades treating children and adolescents at an out-patient center affiliated with Long Beach Memorial Medical Center in Long Beach, California. She has concentrated on teaching parents methods of interacting in ways that enhance the child's or adolescent's ability to make positive and effective choices. Parenting challenges often fluctuate between feeling helpless and somewhat ineffective, to heavy-handed and authoritarian. Being able to be an effective parent is a skill which needs to be learned and supported, and Lorraine has assisted parents by focusing on positive discipline approaches that assist in maintaining healthy relationships in the family while parents stay in charge of their children. Lorraine has helped parents deal with behavioral problems, impulse control problems, attention-deficit/hyperactivity issues, compulsive behavior, dissociative disorders, trauma, relationship issues, depression, anxiety or fears, loss or grief and school problems.



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